Recently I read an article on that talked about how all of our thoughts fall into 1 of 3 categories—direction, destruction or destruction.

From my experience as a human, and from the hundreds of hours I spend coaching men and women, I totally agree that all of our thoughts fall into 1 of these categories.

But…as I thought about it, I thought the idea needed a minor tweak that, in my world, makes a HUGE difference. Here’s my take on the “3 Categories of Thought”.

1.Positive Direction

This is the thought process that moves us forward in life. It’s the thought that finds a solution rather than focuses on the problem. It’s the thought that accesses our highest and best version of ourselves. It’s the thoughts that inspire us to our core feelings and desires.

Because our language is so important in creating the life we desire, it seemed important to put the word “positive” in front of direction (we’re always going in some direction, let’s make it a direction we want).

I’m sure the original author left it off because it’s catchier to have 3 words begin with the same letter…but direction can be positive or negative and it’s important to let our minds know exactly what direction we want to go. This minor tweak can make all the difference in the world as to what direction you go.


In the age of Netflix and youtube videos of kittens doing silly things, I don’t think we really need to explain unhealthy distractive thoughts (um, hello, deep, dark hole of Facebook).

And, at the same time, it’s important to point out that sometimes healthy distraction can be a great thing.

Our minds need a break. Our souls NEED to go for a walk in nature. Our spirits NEED to play on the playground every once in a while. Our souls NEED a warm bath & relaxing music. Our bodies NEED rest and rejuvenation.

When we choose high-quality, healthy distraction we experience high-level experiences of life.

When we choose unhealthy distraction…you know what happens (seriously, how is it so easy to get sucked into Facebook?)


Ahh….self-sabotage. I’ve definitely done this to myself many times and I’m sure you’ve experience it as well.

Destructive thoughts are:

I’m not enough.

No one will ever love me.

Nothing ever works out for me.

Why the f**k can’t i ever get it right?

And on & on…..

I’ve coached enough people to know that EVERYONE goes through this at some point.


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The tricky part is, most of us believe that those destructive thoughts are gospel, rather than questioning them and deciding to shift it to be a positive direction thought or at minimum, a distraction thought.

What kind of thoughts do you find yourself thinking a majority of the day? 

The first step to change is awareness.

The next time you catch yourself in a thought process that is seems to be heavy & negative, here are a few questions to ask: 

What kind of thought is this: positive direction, healthy or unhealthy distraction or destruction?

Is this thought moving me towards the direction I desire?

Is this distraction thought a healthy, soul-nourishing distraction or an energy-sucking distraction?

What can I do to move from destruction to positive direction?

Who do I need to be to turn this to a positive direction thought?

Would love to hear in the comments below what tips & tricks you use to shift your thoughts from destructive to positive direction.

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