Hello, lovely!

Welcome back to the “How to Feel Amazing” series (If you’d rather watch today’s’ tip via video instead of reading, click here )

In tip #16 we talked about how getting clear about what feeling you desire to feel when creating a goal is going to give you a way better experience than just chasing the goal.

Today, I want to dive a bit deeper into the thought process of goal creation and why goals rarely work.

When I work with people, they typically come to me with one of 3 types of “goals”.

It could be an outcome goal—that’s the end result they want to experience.

To continue with the Olympian metaphor I used yesterday, the “outcome goal” for the Olympian would be to “win the gold in the Olympics”.

Another type of goal is a “Measurement goal”—an example of this would be if the Olympian said, “my goal is to run a mile in 3:30”.  Measurement goals typically have numbers attached to them.

Another example of a “measurement goal” would be “I want to lose 30 pounds” or “by the end of the year I want to have saved $10K”.

The last type of goal people come to with is an “action goal”—an example of this would be if the Olympian said “my goal is to train with my trainer 5 days a week” or “my goal is to visualize and meditate an hour a day”—action goals are specific steps to take to achieve something, they aren’t necessarily “goals”.

As I alluded to yesterday, for most people creating goals is something that they do because they’ve been told they need to in order to be successful…but, when they achieve the “goal” they are usually disappointed.

Goals can be very HEAVY for people—that’s why most people don’t accomplish them. That’s not what I want my clients to experience.

I want to invite you to think about a goal that you’ve either had in the past or a current one.

Now, say that out loud, “my goal is to ……”  and notice how it feels when you say it (For example, “my goal is to lose 30 pounds” ). Seriously, say it out loud 🙂

Does it feel light, heavy or neutral?

Now, this time say out-loud “I am experiencing …..” and notice how it feels when you say it (for example, “I am experiencing releasing 30 pounds” ).

Does it feel light, heavy or neutral?

For a majority of people, when they say “my goal is to….”, it feels neutral, heavy, and distant. It’s something that is outside of them.

For a majority of people when they say “I am experiencing….” it feels light, open, expansive.

From that place, they feel inspired to move towards it—they feel it calling to them and pulling them to it, rather than needing the motivation to push themselves to it.

There is less pressure when we decide to create an experience than a goal and it feels more fun to decide to see what it’s like to experience something rather than a goal that is a “have to”.

We want to come from a place of inspiration vs. motivation.

From fun and lightness.

Inspiration is internal & it naturally calls to us—from this place things feel light, open & expansive. It’s energetic and alive.

Motivation is something that we need from the external and constantly need something outside of ourselves to push us along—which is exhausting.

Today, I invite you to re-think the goals that you’ve been working on. Think about them in terms of creating experiences to feel a certain way and notice the shift in your body, mind, and spirit.

Then, you can use the questions we’ve asked in the previous days, (ie. “Who do I need to be to create that experience?”) and you’ll find that it will be easier to move towards!

I think it will make you smile 🙂

Todays Tip: Ditch the goals and create experiences!