Wow, we’ve covered a lot of ground in this “How to Feel Amazing” series. I’m really excited about this tip—It’s one of my favorites! (If you’d like to watch the video instead of reading, click here)
In tip 20 I talked about the idea that energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be transmuted.
I talked about how our emotions can get trapped inside of us when we don’t process them and that trapped emotion can distort the energy field of our bodies.
When the energy field of our body is distorted we experience things like low energy, dis-ease, anxiety, depression… and a host of other maladies.
I had said that the first step in being able to shift this so that you can feel amazing is to notice where you experience emotion. Noticed where it is in your body. Notice the intensity of it.
It may seem really silly and simple to do this but its something that most people don’t take the time to do… we just tend to bury them because we’re afraid of feeling them.
I said that I would share with you a tool that I teach my clients to help Shift that energy… I want to share it with you in a story.
Most of you know that I am an aerialist…or at least I take aerial classes.
For those of you who aren’t familiar with Aerial, thank Cirque du Soleil.
I mainly do silks but I have done the Lyra, which is the hoop and trapeze.
In the fall of 2016, I was doing a student showcase. I was excited about the showcase and honestly, I was mainly doing it as a therapy for myself as I had recently broken up with someone.
The night of the dress rehearsal I felt excited and ready to go.
When my song started playing & I started climbing this silks, I noticed that my feet were shaking.
I felt fear and anxiety come over my body.
I got frustrated with it because on a conscious level I was not nervous or afraid of anything.
During my whole rehearsal piece, I was fighting with the fact that my body was feeling nervous despite the fact that my mind felt differently.
And, the irony about that is that the song that I was performing to was “Breathe” by Pearl Jam 😂
After I was done running through my piece, I started processing what had gone on.
My internal conversation basically was, “Heather, you coach people on this all day long, use what you know!”
Then, the other part of me said “I don’t know what to do…I wasn’t nervous in my head or in my thoughts so I don’t know why my body wasn’t co-operating!”
Then, the smarter part of myself said, “The only thing you need to do when you feel the feeling is it acknowledge it, accept it, and allow it to be there.! Let it be what it is, which is not right or wrong.”
I made a deal with myself to do that if those feelings came up the next day during the actual show.
When it was time for me to do my piece, my head was really excited and my body was calm…
Until… the song came on & I started climbing this silks!
My feet started shaking and it felt beyond my control.
I then literally said to the feeling, “hello nerves, thank you for being here! It’s OK that you’re here with me, we are doing a big thing in front of a couple of hundred people 15 ft in the air, so I know you just want me to be safe. You are allowed to be here, I’m just going to let the feeling of confidence run the show right now.”
And, do you know what happened?
My feet stopped shaking!
You see, our feelings, those automatic responses to an event, and our emotions, the responses to our beliefs about an event are there to protect us and keep us safe.
From an evolutionary standpoint, we needed it this because we used to have to compete with lions and tigers and bears…
If you take the time to use the AAA’s (acknowledge, accept & allow), I think you’ll find that you’ll move through those emotions much faster.
My clients who use this say it’s a miracle! I agree with them😄
Tomorrow I’ll talk about what happens when it seems like 90 seconds doesn’t work but for now, I’ll leave you with today’s tip…
Todays Tip: The next time you are feeling a strong feeling that you are not enjoying, and acknowledge it, accept it, and allow it to be there.